Sunday, January 13, 2013

7 Dictums of what NOT to teach in self-defense for WOMEN


WARNING to WOMEN!
After the Guwahati molestation and Delhi gang rape, more women are enquiring about self-defense courses. This blog post is to warn those women. They could end up with martial-arts schools which will actually put them in greater danger, when they try to repel a sexual aggressor.

REALITY NOT REALIZED BY MARTIAL-ART TEACHERS
Many martial arts instructors DON'T understand the specific problems of women, like -
1- The average Women is SMALLER than the average Man
2- The Woman will be under extreme FEAR and STRESS during a sexual attack
3- Most Women are PUT OFF by Violence; so, learning to fight does NOT appeal to them
4- Most Women DON'T see themselves as capable of fighting a bigger & aggressive Man
The martial-arts instructor should factor in this reality before making a curriculum for women. But do they?
The emphatic answer is a big "NO"!

HOW WOMEN ARE MISGUIDED BY HALF-BAKED GURUS
Recently I saw a video of a self-promoted martial-arts guru, in Chennai, who is offering a course for women.
The scenario - Knife-threat to woman's throat by a probable rapist.
Step 1 -The instructor showed a technique where the attacked woman nonchalantly bends the thumb of the attacker's hand which is holding the knife! At the same time, she also steps on the attacker's toes and cuts his mobility!!
Step 2 - The attacker immediately falls to the ground writhing in apparent pain.
Step 3 - Then the small woman puts one foot on his face while holding down the attacker in an intricate Aikido wrist-lock.
Step 4 - She removes the knife from the attacker as effortlessly as removing a hair pin.
Then she looks proudly at the camera and smiles!
After I saw this video, I was just hoping the gullible woman student never tries out this in the unfortunate event of a real sexual attack. She will be better off running as if possessed. ( Obviously I can't share this video and help spread this sham. But see the safer and better option here )

BLUNDERS GALORE.
What are the major blunders committed by this martial-arts instructor?
Blunder 1 - TOO MANY ASSUMPTIONS - As I often say the expansion of ASSUME is "It makes an ASS of U and ME".
The technique is so complicated that it will be difficult even for a martial-arts veteran. Assuming a small novice woman can execute this technique will only expose her to more danger.
Blunder 2 - TECHNIQUE TOO PRECISE  - Small-joint manipulation
Highly precision movements like bending the thumb backwards, that too the thumb of the hand holding the knife just won't be possible for 2 reasons -
1) The attacker WON'T be static. The woman will only end up cutting her hand on the knife blade
2) The woman will be in extreme panic, that she CAN'T EXECUTE this precise Aikido small-joint manipulation.
Blunder 3 - STRENGTH DIFFERENCE NOT FACTORED IN
1) A small woman CAN'T just like that create enough pain that makes a bigger, more aggressive man fall like a mannequin.
Blunder 4 - AGGRESSION OF ATTACKER NOT FACTORED IN
2) Her foot on the face WON'T hold that angry attacker down.. and that too he has one hand free! He can do so many things with his free hand, like tripping her leg, supporting himself and turning his body. Its stupid to assume he will lie there silently.
Blunder 4 - TOO MUCH OF ENGAGEMENT WITH THE ATTACKER
1) Longer engagement in close quarters only exposes the woman to more danger
2) Women instinctively will only move away.. and NOT increase physical contact with a threat
Blunder 5 - TEACHING A WOMAN CONTROL and WEAPON DISARMING 
This is the common problem with traditional martial arts. They were designed for warriors and NOT an average woman. The Instructors just keep teaching them to school girls!
Controlling and Disarming is NOT required for a woman, unless she is a Police Officer!

In summary -
THE 7 DON'TS OF WOMAN SELF-DEFENCE TECHNIQUES
The technique..
1) ... should NOT be based on STRENGTH
2) ... should NOT be COMPLICATED & LAYERED
3)... should NOT assume the WOMAN is going to be COOL and OBJECTIVE
4) .. should NOT assume the ATTACKER is going to be STATIC and COMPLIANT
5) .. should NOT increase ENGAGEMENT with the Attacker
6) .. should NOT teach CONTROL of the attacker
7) ... should NOT teach DISARMING WEAPON

These 7 DICTUMs hold good for all self-defense techniques.. They are MORE CRITICAL for women.
In a later post, I will talk of What to Teach in Women's Self Defence Class.
Meanwhile give me your feedback and suggestions. 

Related Posts -
“How to find out if the martial-arts instructor is a martial-fart”
 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" - Part I & Part II
Videos -
KRAV-MAGA FOR WOMEN - CHENNAI, INDIA
KravMaga - safety tips for Children & Women - NDTV Hindu Chennai

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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" 
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
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FACEBOOK - http://bit.ly/KravMagaChennai
YOUTUBE - http://www.youtube.com/user/KravMagaSreeRam
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Saturday, January 5, 2013

Bystander Effect - Why public don't assist a victim


Bystander Effect - In the recent Delhi gang rape case, this appalling social habit was glaringly evident. The girl and the boy were thrown out of the bus by the rapists. They were naked and injured, lying on the road in the bone chilling 2* Celcius cold night of Delhi - for more than an hour. Many passing vehicles only slowed down but none stopped. 
2 days back a woman accident victim was lying bleeding during day-time for 45 minutes on Mount Road, Chennai; no body came forward to assist her. She died on the way to the hospital.
Accident victim pleading for help
More such incidents in this video, convey that callousness is not limited to India. Public apathy is a socio-psychological phenomena all over the world.
Video - The Bystander Effect: Real incidents


Kitty Genovese 
Social Psychologists who studied the infamous 1964 murder of Kitty Genovese - said " That contrary to common expectations, larger numbers of bystanders decrease the likelihood that someone will step forward and help a victim. 
The reasons include the fact that - 
1. onlookers see that others are not helping either,
2. onlookers believe others will know better how to help, and 
3. onlookers feel uncertain about helping while others are watching 

In short the "Bystander effect' highlights the reality that more the number of people, less will come forward to assist a victim in crisis. Isn't it ironical?! 

Some experiments were done in UK . See these interesting videos, which bring out some interesting insights -
1) The greater the ambiguity its less likely for people to respond
2) Most want to fit into the social environment. They are reluctant to do something different from others.
3) Sex and social status of the victim also influence public response.
4) Communication to build familiarity, improved public response and empathy

THE BYSTANDER EFFECT - Psychological Experiment - Video 

Responsibility of Strangers - Social Experiment - Interesting Video

DIFFUSION OF RESPONSIBILITY
Chennai Bus day - A case in mob mentality
This public apathy comes out of an interesting factor - "Diffusion of Responsibility' .. It seems when the group is more than 3, people assume they are not responsible as an individual. In a different route, this factor also leads to mob mentality - resulting in gang rapes, looting or students taking over a bus during the 'Bus Day' in Chennai

THE RELEVANCE TO WOMEN SAFETY
A recent case of 'Mob mentality' was the Guwahati molestation
30 Guys molest a girl in public - Guwahati
In KravMaga classes to women, I stress more on the deterrent factors rather than the physical self-defence aspect, since its easier to apply preventive measures in a crisis. 
In the '10A-s of Personal Safety for Women' one of the A-s is ATTENTION. We tell the women to attract public attention to her plight. The passers-by should know without ambiguity that it's not a lovers tiff or a domestic fight. (You can download a soft copy of the small handbook here. It's for women) 
The net take is - a bystander is more ready to find an excuse for NOT stepping forward to assist a victim in distress.
What will you do? Look for an excuse or assist in whatever way you can ?

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Videos -
KRAV-MAGA FOR WOMEN - CHENNAI, INDIA
KravMaga - safety tips for Children & Women - NDTV Hindu Chennai

………………………………………………………
SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" 
...............................................................
Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
LINKED IN -  http://in.linkedin.com/in/ksr960
FACEBOOK - http://bit.ly/KravMagaChennai
YOUTUBE - http://www.youtube.com/user/KravMagaSreeRam
GOOGLE PROFILE - http://www.google.com/profiles/ksr960
TWEET - @kravMagaSreeRam


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