Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Effects of Sexual Harassment (5 of 5 on Crime against Women)


Being sexually harassed can devastate your psychological health, physical well-being and vocational development. Women who have been harassed often change their jobs, career goals, job assignments, educational programs or academic majors.
 In addition, women have reported psychological and physical reaction to being harassed that are similar to reactions to other forms of stress. They include:

Psychological Reactions

  • Depression, anxiety, shock, denial
  • Anger, fear, frustration, irritability
  • Insecurity, embarrassment, feelings of betrayal 
  • Confusion, feelings of being powerless
  • Shame, self-consciousness, low self-esteem
  • Guilt, self-blame, isolation

Physiological Reactions

  • Headaches
  • Lethargy
  • Gastrointestinal distress
  • Dermatological reactions
  • Weight fluctuations
  • Sleep Disturbances, nightmares
  • Phobias, panic reactions
  • Sexual problems

Career-Related Effects

  • Decreased job satisfaction
  • Unfavorable performance evaluations
  • Loss of job or promotion
  • Drop in academic or work performance due to stress
  • Absenteeism
  • Withdrawal from work or school
  • Change in career goals
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Monday, July 30, 2012

How to respond to work-place sexual harassment (4 of 5 on Crime against Women)


There is no one way to respond to harassment. Every situation is different and only you can evaluate the problem and decide on the best response.
Friends, affirmative action officers, human resource professionals and women's groups can offer information, advice and support, but only you can decide what is right for you. The only thing you can be absolutely certain of is that ignoring the situation will not cause it to go away. Above all, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF FOR THE HARASSMENT. It is not your fault. Place the blame where it belongs--on the harasser. Self-blame can cause depression and will not help you or the situation.
Many Women Have Found These Strategies Effective:
Say NO to the harasser! Be direct.
Write a letter to the harasser. Describe the incident and how it made you feel. State that you would like the harassment to stop. Send the letter by certified mail. Keep a copy.
Keep a record of what happened and when. Include dates, times, places, names of persons involved and witnesses, and who said what to whom.
Tell someone; don't keep it to yourself. By being quiet about the harassment, you don't help stop it. Chances are extremely good that you aren't the only victim of your harasser. Speaking up can be helpful in finding support and in protecting others from being victims.
Finding out who is responsible for dealing with harassment in your organization and whether you can talk in confidence to that person. Almost all organizations have sexual harassment policies, procedures and individuals or counselors who administer them.
Find out what the procedure is at your workplace or school; it is the organization's responsibility to provide you with advice, help and support, but such meetings at the workplace can provide an important record if legal action is ever advisable.
If you are a union member, speak to your union representative. Unions are generally very committed to eliminating sexual harassment in the workplace.
If you are experiencing severe psychological distress, you may want to consult a psychologist or other mental health professional who understands the problems caused by sexual harassment.
- from the Journal of the American Psychological Association

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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Friday, July 27, 2012

Types of Sexual Harassment (3 of 5 on Crime against Women)


STOP SEXUAL HARASSMENT
Gender Harassment: Generalized sexist statements and behavior that convey insulting or degrading attitudes about women. Examples include insulting remarks, offensive graffiti, obscene jokes or humor about sex or women in general.

Seductive Behavior: Unwanted, inappropriate and offensive sexual advances. Examples include repeated unwanted sexual invitations, insistent requests for dinner, drinks or dates, persistent letters, phone calls and other invitations.

Sexual Bribery: Solicitation of sexual activity or other sex-linked behavior by promise of reward; the proposition may be either overt or subtle.

Sexual Coercion: Coercion of sexual activity or other sex-linked behavior by threat of punishment; examples include negative performance evaluations, withholding of promotions, threat of termination.

Sexual Imposition: Gross sexual imposition (such as forceful touching, feeling, grabbing) or sexual assault.

Of these five types of behavior, gender harassment is by far the most common, followed by seductive behavior. The "classic" forms of sexual harassment (bribery and coercion) are in fact relatively uncommon, while other forms of sexual imposition happen more frequently than most people think. 
Recent court decisions have also found that certain types of offensive visual displays in the workplace, such as pornography, can be considered sexual harassment.

The defining characteristic of sexual harassment is that it is unwanted. It's important to clearly let an offender know that certain actions are unwelcome.
- from the Journal of the American Psychological Association
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Sexual Harassment: Myths and Realities (2 of 5 on Crime against Women)

MYTH: Sexual harassment is rare. 
FACT: Sexual harassment is extremely widespread. It touches the lives of 40 to 60 percent of working women, and similar proportions of female students in colleges and universities.

MYTH: The seriousness of sexual harassment has been exaggerated; most so-called harassment is really trivial and harmless flirtation. 
FACT: Sexual harassment can be devastating. Studies indicate that most harassment has nothing to do with "flirtation: or sincere sexual or social interest. Rather, it is offensive, often frightening and insulting to women. Research shows that women are often forced to leave school or jobs to avoid harassment; may experiences serious psychological and health-related problems.

MYTH: Many women make up and report stories of sexual harassment to get back at their employers or others who have angered them.
FACT: Research shows that less than one percent of complaints are false. Women rarely file complaints are false. Women rarely file complaints even when they're are justified in doing so.

MYTH: Women who are sexually harassed generally provoke harassment by the way they look, dress and behave.
FACT: Harassment does not occur because women dress provocatively or initiate sexual activity in the hope of getting promoted and advancing their careers. Studies have found that victims of sexual harassment vary in physical appearance, type of dress, age, and behavior. The only thing they have in common is that over 99% of them are female.

MYTH: If you ignore harassment, it will go away.
FACT: It will not. Research has shown that simply ignoring the behavior is ineffective; harassers generally will not stop on their own. Ignoring such behavior may even be seen as agreement or encouragement.
- from the Journal of the American Psychological Association

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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Are women safe on the Indian streets? The ugly truth revealed by statistics. (1 of 5 on Sexual Harassment)

After the Guwahati incident, wherein a girl was sexually molested by around 30 men, I have been getting calls from concerned parents and IT/BPO companies which employ women;  all enquiring about self-defense courses.  Suddenly here was an ugly reminder of the safety of women on Indian streets. 
“Oh..come on..it’s the same all over the world. .tell me..if the girl is walking outside a bar at that time, what does she expect?!”  shrugged one middle aged man, while another waved the whole the thing away with a generic dismissal , “She is a victim of the angrezi pub culture”
But the truth is more ugly and accurate, as these facts below point out.
The security of woman in India is amongst the lowest, globally ( Source - http://www.womanstats.org)
World Woman self defense workshops, Chennai
The more startling fact is, even war-torn Somalia is rated a better country in terms of safety of women! India is at the bottom 4 along with Afghanistan, Congo and Pakistan. (Source -www.trust.org)
Crime against women - G20 countries - India low (Kravmaga Chennai)
crime against women statistics - G20 countries - India low at 19

In India , Andhra and Bengal seem to be the worst states for woman. All the inference drawn below are based on published reports of NCRB on “Crime against women”
A quick look of the molestation and eve-teasing statistics of the top metros, reveal Chennai is comparatively a safer city for women.
Eve-teasing & molestation in Indian metros - Chennai OK
Molestation & Eve- teasing - Indian metros - statistics

In total numbers, the predictable bad-boy is of course Delhi, followed by Mumbai.  But the ugly story is revealed in the smaller cities like Bhopal, Indore, Lucknow and especially Vijayawada.
What’s wrong with small town India?!

Sexual harassment high in II tier towns of India
The summary of the pathetic India story on “crime against women” is captured by the graph below.
In 10 years since 2000, the total incidents of crime has grown 50 fold! If one tries to blame this on the burgeoning population, its futile; because the figure on the rate of crime against woman (number of incidents in a lakh of population) also shows a steady upward slant. 30 times increase in 10 years!
Today Crime against women cases form 10% of the total IPC cases in India !
Crime against women increasing in India

What is to be done to improve the safety of Indian women?
I am not a social scientist to understand the implications and extrapolate on the catalysts of this trend of Crime against women in India. But there is no ambiguity in the simple fact that security of women in India is abysmal.
This ‘crime against woman ‘situation cannot be improved in a short duration; due to various cultural, economic and social factors. Like the ingrained patriarchal mind-set, the economic dependency, increasing alcohol consumption, wave of migrant labourers in big cities, the clash of cultural values due to a media explosion within 2 decades. The list can go on.
Education is better than Policing for “crime against women”
I feel the change will be more enduring if it’s inculcated from bottom up. Values and social mores are imbibed at an early age.  It’s very tough to change social values after a certain age.
Policing and law-enforcement can at the best act as deterrents. But their resources are already stretched thin. The best bet is education. If the man vs woman equations are spelt out clearly at a very young age, probably in 2 or 3 generation cycles we can see a significant change is the safety of women on the Indian streets.
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" - Part I & Part II
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 



Wednesday, July 11, 2012

The Tao of Fraud – or “How to find out if the martial-arts instructor is a martial-fart”


"Sensei, Sifu, Shihan, International Grand-Master, Shaolin monk, Guru , Aasaan"
 In Chennai roads I find posters in every wall or boards on each lamp post advertising these characters. They are in various funny poses and wear exotic uniforms. Most of them try to look intimidating with stern expressions or a feline snarl.
Is this plethora of loud and vulgar communication an indication of a big market of gullible youngsters! Probably it’s the lure of easy money to be made in a field, which has no defined standards of delivery or measurable criteria for 'experts'.
"YOU KEEEL MY MASTER!  NOW, I KEEL YOU"
That’s an earful of management jargon. Let’s ask in plain English…
"Why do people pay money to gurus who blatantly promise fantastic results?!"
It’s nothing but the basic greed of the majority which always asks “HOW TO GET MORE THAN I DESERVE.”  It’s not only in earnings but in every department of life people dream of results which are disproportionate to effort put in; including martial-arts.

Now that the motives of the audience is established let’s see how the frauds manipulate the aspirant. The following are some of the common signs that “The Master” you are talking to is a fraud.

Fraud alerts!

·         KravMaga? Yes. BJJ? Ofcourse. MMA? No issues. Archery? He is the Olympics team coach.
He claims expertise in multiple arts and assures you he can teach whatever you want.
·         He claims he holds 10th Dan Black-belt from a non-verifiable style, which is practiced only in a small island between Okinawa and Korea, by zen hermits.
·         Even more ridiculous is, he claims he has formed his own style à la Bruce Lee’s Jeet-Kune-Dho
·         He recounts various fights where he has kicked multiple-asses and treats you to graphic descriptions.
·         He whispers in your ears, that he is the coach of NSG’s secret black-ops commando force.
·         The master is wearing red-colour satin top with an embroidered dragon and loose pajamas with a stripe running along each leg, like a music-band master.
·         The dojo’s interior is like a Japanese geisha house and there are Shodo calligraphy scrolls hanging on the wall.
·         I am not exaggerating. In our own Chennai there is a poster-master, who used to have 2 guys with nunchaakus standing on an arch in the entrance of his ‘High Command”
·         The master is a physical wreck and is unable to even bend down and touch his own toes.
That was due to injuries he sustained in combat, when he was hit from behind with a poisoned dart.
·         The master has total control over his Chi or Ki energy; and he can draw back his sperm like a vacuum cleaner.
·         He is in the know of Noku-Varmam, enabling him to look at the enemy in his eyes and chant a secret 2 liner which will result in the enemy to vomit blood and die after the next new-moon.
WTF !!
·         He holds the record for sleeping with poisonous snakes or head-butting iron nails into wooden boards .
·         You notice chubby 15 year old black belts taking classes, while the master is hard-selling to you.
·          You get evasive replies or intimidating looks if you ask about his association or if you want to see his qualifications. His credibility is unquestionable.
·         He tries to sell you a “Black-belt in 3 months” course
·         Even better, he can put you on the fast-track if you are ready to pay a premium
·         You have to pay a registration fee, buy uniform and pay 6 months in advance.
Later you have to pay the coach for grading you, apart from coughing up separately for the belt and for the certificate. This of course won’t be revealed to you when you join.
·         In extreme cases you may be demanded to make a cut on your finger and sign your life-long loyalty with your bloodied thumb-print. Just like Cosa Nostra.

I wonder how these pretenders manage to hoodwink the eager aspirants, even in this information age. Then I think of the flourishing careers of god men, astrologers and charlatans. I recently read somewhere the asset value of Ranjitha fame ‘Swami’ Nithyanandha may be around 1000 Crores! 
Hmm.. So who is smart?! What am I missing here?
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S.SREERAM
Instructor, Chennai Chapter, Krav Maga (IKMF) India
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