Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Will self-defence work for a girl being raped?


Since the Delhi gang-rape, so far 18 people have asked me -  
" Will self-defence techniques actually work
for an 'average girl' against a group of men.?! "
My answer is - 

" Those who keep asking "Will this work?!" die without finding out whether it will."
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Learning provides you the tools.
Practice makes you an expert.
Pushing yourself out of the comfort-zone makes you superior.
and above all..
Introspection makes you realistic

That's too true of all arts. The same hierarchy applies to learning to fight also. So, every input in learning has an output in application ...
... which is reasonably proportionate. Whether its Singing, Tennis, Medicine, Drama, Astronomy or KravMaga. If you have a natural aptitude to that field, the progress will be better than your peers.



Decide at which level you want to play..and put in the required effort .

You will find out "Will this work?!". .


Having pissed you off by stating "One can't expect results without effort" let me now try and please you, by giving you ... 
The Secret of Street fight
DON'T TRY TO DOMINATE THE ATTACKER. 
TRY TO DOMINATE THE SITUATION.

For a girl fighting men, it means running around, throwing things at him, screaming at the top of the voice. If he is on you, claw, bite and kick. Go for the eyes and groin, which are soft parts.
Will that stop the rapist? 
No it may not. 
If you are imagining the rapist will be knocked out cold, you are wrong.
At the most.. if the girl is lucky, the rapist may be temporarily blinded. Or he may be holding his groin in pain.

If that doesn't happen, at-least he may hesitate to come near again. 
Delaying is also tactically useful, since most of the rapists don't want to get caught.
The girl's chances are better now. She can again start screaming and running away.

Hmm.. so, now you are asking me,
" What if there are 3 people attacking the girl?" 
" What if the rapist punched the girl on the nose and she faints.?"
My answer to persistent cynics, who cerebralize everything is -
" Well...in that case..
no girl needs to learn martial arts..
because it looks like
she is going to get raped, 
anyway ."

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Videos -
KRAV-MAGA FOR WOMEN - CHENNAI, INDIA
KravMaga - safety tips for Children & Women - NDTV Hindu Chennai
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" 
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
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Monday, December 17, 2012

Self-defence Workshops for Women - Part I

Self-defense Workshops for Women - Part I
I am sharing the learning from the many workshops for women on 'self-defense and personal safety', I conducted in the last 4 years. Please don’t hesitate to comment if you feel I am wrong. I also look forward to your suggestions to improve the content and presentation.

What I learnt during these workshops to women -
(Disclaimer - The following are my own broad observations. Of course some women are exceptions; but they are very few.)

1. In daily life, women face more problems than we men can ever visualize or comprehend.
Women face persistent stares, uninitiated talks, lewd comments, unwanted touch, vulgar taps and so many unsavoury acts which we men don't experience.
So, they should be keener on learning martial-arts than men. Right?
No, it’s wrong.
Oh! Why?  Because...



Woman power ! 
2. Women don't see themselves beating up men
Even though women acknowledge they face constant harassments, they assume they can't handle it at a physical level.
They do participate in the workshops with enthusiasm and do the techniques with gusto; but I get the feeling they are saying to themselves 'OK.. that's was useful and fun.. but.. will I ever be able to beat up a man so easily!?"
Why are women so sceptical? Because...

3. Women are afraid, since the average man is bigger and aggressive than the average woman.
The uneasy fear is felt by men, only when facing a bigger or more aggressive man. For the woman, EVERY man is bigger and aggressive than her!
It took some time for me, to realize the seriousness of this issue.
I initially assumed that if I address this fear, more women will opt for martial-arts.
It didn't happen. Why? Because...

4. Women don't visualize themselves as martial arts practitioners
By nature women are put-off by physical violence. So even if they accept that they can actually do something in a crisis, they are not keen to learn martial-arts in a consistently prolonged manner.

Some women assume wrongly that they will become muscular and manly. Many women also are apprehensive of getting hurt in practice, especially on the face.
Kali - role model ?
Even though I get lots of enquiries from women, I don’t actually see them following it up. Probably they made the enquiry in a burst of anger after an ugly episode with some man. Once the anger cooled down, the priorities naturally change.
So these are my major observations. I have realized that taking KravMaga to women is a challenge.
After reading and discussing with women (some of them are experienced martial arts teachers), I tweaked the teaching content and methodology to women. I will share that in a future blog


Related articles -  
Videos -
KRAV-MAGA FOR WOMEN - CHENNAI, INDIA
KravMaga - safety tips for Children & Women - NDTV Hindu Chennai
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" 
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
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Monday, December 3, 2012

The police & fake encounters - Tip of the iceberg

The Dynamics of Police encounters - Part III

After the recent police encounter in TamilNadu, furious debates are happening in every media channel; in some of which I also participated.
Instead of analysing this specific encounter and getting into shallow arguments, I want to talk on the larger aspects like -
  •       How does the public view Police?
  •      The ills of Indian police
  •         How equipped / skilled are our police?        
  •      Infrastructure & Training
  •      Why encounters happen?
  •      What the public wants and how it can be realized?

How does the public view police?

Sheep dog and wolf analogy - According to Geoff Thompson , Police are the 'Sheep dog'. which protects the 'Innocent herd of Sheep". The criminal is akin to the "Wolf"
When there is no threat; the sheep hate the presence of the sheep-dog... He is bossing around and intimidating... The moment the Wolf appears on the scene, the sheep loudly bleat for the sheep-dog to come to their rescue.
In essence, a citizen recognizes the utility of police only when he is under threat. Rest of the time he dislikes any interaction with khaki.

 In fact the movies takes great delight in ridiculing police as comical bums or criticizing them as corrupt inhuman robots. On the other extreme are the Vijaykanth type superhuman police, mouthing punch dialogues while catching bullets fired at him.  

Portrayal of police - 2 extremes 

Why the public perspective of police is so negatively twisted.

The ills of Indian police

The police to Public ratio is abysmal in India. On top of it, many police personnel are not utilized for law-enforcement. They are errand boys to officers' families. One senior officer was telling me he had 18 men working in his house when he was a district SP!
Law and Order police are pulled from regular duty for VIP bandobast. One sees VIP convoys with scores of policemen apart from the hundreds lining the road. Like many government departments the resources are used for their own benefit first. So understaffing is a major issue.
Under-staffing pre-supposes over-working. Most of the police personnel suffer from fatigue. On top of physical fatigue, they suffer from mental stress due to abuse by superiors, no interaction with family, sense of frustration caused by corruption. Add to it alcohol abuse, lack of fitness programs and exposure to elements.
A recipe for inefficiency!

How equipped / skilled are our police?

In Tamil a popular observation is " போக்கத்தவனுக்கு போலீஸ் வேலை .. வக்கத்தவனுக்கு வாத்தியார் வேலை . “ “Police job is for the troublesome who lack education and skills ... Teaching job is for the educated without any skills". Even though this is not completely true, there is some validity when we look at the kind of people taking up police and teacher jobs.
A police man is not recruited on the basis of IQ, but on physical attributes.
After he joins police the training regimen successfully snuffs out any proactive intelligence he had; he is conditioned to obey orders whether he likes it or not.
Then he is posted in a station. In a short period he realizes the system is corrupt and any values he may harbor will only cause friction with his superiors and colleagues. He faces the choice “Either be part of the system and claim your share of the spoils or get sidelined to a punishment post."


Infrastructure & Training

A classic case is Computerization, which is carried out in a crude manner; without any thoughts on integration or work-flow management. Once I saw 400 new PCs in one office, with only pre-installed MS-office and all operating as stand-alones!
Most of the officers are afraid of experimenting with technology
, because if their attempt fails they stand accountable. So, putting aside any fresh initiatives, they opt for no-brainer decisions, which have safe precedents. No wonder, most of the modernization funds given to police is spent on buying vehicles and building new offices.
Even if an officer shows pro-active initiative
, he may not remain long enough in that post to see it through. Constant transfers ordered by short-sighted superiors and political bosses frustrate any attempt to build a sustainable and efficient process. The replacing officer who comes to the post will have different ideas and priorities.
The net result is, Indian police's infrastructure, especially technology is mostly cosmetic and under-utilized.


Talking about training of recruits, the basic training is out-dated. Once on the job, there are no systemic attempts to update skills. Even the sporadic training exercises are perfunctory and the results are not compared with the objectives. It’s mostly on paper.
Since I try to help the police in un-armed combat and cyber-crime prevention, I am constantly surprised by the administrative apathy. I poured out my frustration to a senior officer," Your department has just 2 problems - too much of power and too much of ignorance. It’s a bad combination! “. He nodded with a sympathetic smile.

This is the overall pathetic scenario. Having this in mind let’s look at ‘encounter’ deaths

Why encounters happen?

Encounters are political decisions. They are not just police decisions.
Even if the police want an encounter, it cannot happen without the tacit approval of the political bosses.
I also noticed that police will turn a blind eye and tolerate crimes which happen in closed rooms, away from the eye of the larger public. They will even demand a share in the spoils. But when a crime happens in full public glare threatening their credibility, police swing into action to regain their image.
The human rights supporters constantly demand the police to leave it to the judiciary
. How naive! An encounter cannot happen without taking into confidence local judiciary, politicians, community leaders and in many cases even the media.
A police officer is NOT carrying out an encounter, since he is a sadomasochistic pervert.
He is forced to do that due to various compulsions, which may be beyond law and order issues.
Killing a life in cold blood is not an easy decision and it is taken reluctantly under extreme duress.
The officer is also putting his career on the block; he knows if the political bosses are replaced, he will be the scapegoat.

Rajasthan IG arrested for encounter

What the public wants and how it can be realized?

The problem for the police is that the criminal is hidden amongst the public, whom he is protecting. He has to weed the criminal out and substantiate his actions to the critical scrutiny of media fed public.
In contrast the army has an easier job, since the enemy is well identified. Eliminating an enemy is not subject to constant public debate. Concepts like patriotism also make army killings actually look good and they are hailed as 'Saviors of the nation.'
The police job is mostly ‘Control’... Not 'offensive".
He is expected to use force with great restraint. They are advised to use force in proportionate to threat. Who will measure the threat and response in a crisis!
This ideal scenario of a benign police keeping a fatherly eye on the society can be realized only when all democratic institutions operate without prejudice - The politician, The Bureaucracy, The Judiciary, The Media and above all the Public.
One can demand police to stop taking law in their own hands, when the other pillars of democracy play straight.
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Previous posts on this series on police encounters-
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women"
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
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Thursday, November 29, 2012

Why I practice Violence as a vocation


THE ZEN OF STREET FIGHT - SOME SMART TIPS - Part II

Warning - This analysis may NOT be very crisp like my other posts. But still I will highlight the key definitions in bold, so that you can have at least a net-take if you don’t have the time.

Imi Lichtenfeld
In Part I we started looking at issues which had to be understood before one takes up training in fighting arts. 
Having stated that violence is mostly NOT an intelligent solution to confrontations, lets now try and answer 
"Then why should one learn fighting, especially the most violent system of KravMaga!?"
The answer is simple.
"So that the good can do their work"
This is the base line of KravMaga, attributed to Imi Lichtenfeld  who is considered as the founder of the combat system. This line captures the essence of KravMaga.

Chennai Police learn KravMaga
Why I practice Violence as a vocation
Once while talking to my friend, who was living in London, she asked me "Why of all things you practice violence, like a thug? You are supposed to be cerebral guy, being a Communications Consultant?!"
She was a dance teacher and used to drive alone to Oxford to conduct classes and return late night. So I asked her “Aren’t you afraid to drive up and down alone on a highway, during late hours?" She replied “There is an efficient police system to take care of public and in any emergency I can call up the highway patrol car. So I need not be afraid." I asked her, " So you rely on the police to protect you from anti-socials and criminals. You believe the police have the skills and tactics to handle violent criminals. Don't you?" She said "Of course. The police is supposed to have the where-with-all to fight criminals."
My final reply was, "Well, we as KravMaga instructors are the people who provide the police with those skills, which protect you along the way." After this she never questioned me again on why I practice violence as a vocation!

Bal Thackeray of Mumbai
If the Good don't assert, they have to be resigned to be dominated by the Bad
When we want to choose a candidate from the politicians who contest elections, we are frustrated. We know all the main contenders are criminals, who effectively have side-lined any contestant who possesses social values.
This is what happens in society as a whole. The powerful and aggressive bulldoze their way to prominence and wealth, smothering anybody who dares to resist them.
The Good suffer in silent, impotent anger unable to stand up against this tide of brutal onslaught of muscle and money.
Instead of accepting this status-quo, the Good should learn to assert themselves. It's easier said than done. The process of individually and collectively building strength and confidence to confront the Bad has to be initiated. Positive changes will happen gradually.

Superior tactice makes one cool! Thats KravMaga!
What is the point of having great moral values, if one doesn't have the physical courage to practice them!
That’s where training in fighting arts come handy.
But, unfortunately most decent people view training in martial arts as not fit for matured, civilized citizens. Physical violence is a put-off after the youthful hormones cool down. My argument is, "Don't view systems like KravMaga as just practice of physical violence. By constant learning to face anger, one gets the confidence not to buckle down against unreasonable aggression."
This confidence makes one stress free and objectively cool in a crisis. I have personally been benefited by this calm, at work-place and even at home.

There are more physically tangible benefits too. I will speak about them in my next post.
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women"
...............................................................
Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
LINKED IN -  http://in.linkedin.com/in/ksr960
FACEBOOK - http://bit.ly/KravMagaChennai
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Thursday, October 4, 2012

SELF-DEFENSE - PRACTICAL TIP 1

SELF DEFENSE TIP - KRAV-MAGA CHENNAI
SELF DEFENSE TIP - KRAV-MAGA CHENNAI

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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women"
...............................................................
Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
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Friday, August 31, 2012

THE ZEN OF STREET FIGHT - SOME SMART TIPS - Part I

Warning - This analysis may NOT be very crisp like my other posts. But still I will highlight the key definitions in bold, so that you can have at least a net-take if you don’t have the time.
In KravMaga, I have noticed some basic principles around which the techniques are built. I am attempting to decipher them for my trainees benefit.
Part I deals with issues which has to be understood before one takes up training in fighting arts.

"VIOLENCE IS THE MOST STUPID WAY OF ADDRESSING A PROBLEM."
To every fresher who joins my KravMaga class I start my class with the statement ,"Violence is the most stupid way of addressing a problem." Their reaction is generally a look of amused confusion " I am paying good money to this guy and he is saying the whole class is learning to be stupid!"
Former Minister K P P Samy
arrested for murder
Its just that I want to the trainee to understand there is cost to pay for each action and he can't avoid it once the act is done.
Violence is the least civilized or sophisticated way of solving any issue we have with others. In most cases the problem only comes back in a different form.


"VIOLENCE BLEEDS ONE’S RESOURCES."
 Refugee camp in war torn Somalia 
Also, Violence is very resource intensive. Look at a country at war for long time - young men who could have been scientists, bankers, artists are busy killing and money which should have gone to health, education are diverted to produce weapons of mass-murder. A classic example may be Afghanistan or Somalia.
The same logic applies to an individual also; a confrontation can sap your time, energy and peace-of-mind..at the end of the day, you end up losing sleep, productivity and even reputation. What has been built over years can be undone in a few seconds of adrenalin infused madness.

Sonia with her body guards
REMEMBER! THE WORLD VALUES THE BRAIN MORE THAN THE BODY
Who sits on the throne? It’s the leader who thrives by selling dreams.
Who rules? It’s the orator who can manipulate public psyche.
Who wields power? It’s the politician who presents an agenda for your future
It’s NOT a champion weight lifter, a glorious body builder or a martial art master who is given the responsibility of ruling over a country; even though they may be admired and respected. The fact is their role in society is limited to protection or propagating physical fitness.

I recall a small story - The Maharaja had an very able bodyguard, who was like a loyal shadow for many years. There was also an old minister whom the maharaja listened to. The body guard always felt bad that the old, weak and tottering minister was paid many times than him.
One day he asked the Maharaja," Am I not the one ready to lay down my life for you? Should I not be paid more than the old minister? What do you see in him which makes you value him more than me!? " The Maharaja thought for some time and said, " I am expecting a ship from a foreign country .Go to the port and check if the ship has come." The bodyguard went to the port and reported ,'Maharaja, the ship has arrived."
The Maharaja asked the bodyguard to stand beside him and called the old minister. He asked the minister to check and report if the ship he is expecting has arrived. The minister went and came back after some time to report," The ship has come. It has 2 tonnes of wheat which we can buy at 4 mohurs per tonne. It also carries 40 arabian horses which we can buy in barter for 2 bags of pearls. They also require rock salt, which we have excess inventory. I am also negotiating to sell pepper and turmeric." The Maharaja turned and looked at the bodyguard, who just lowered his gaze, unable to meet the Maharaja's questioning look.

The military might of poor N.Korea
SO, PHYSICAL PROTECTION HAS NO VALUE?!
I said earlier, men of physical attributes offer only the promise of PROTECTION and HEALTH. Ironically, both these are felt only in their absence!
Do we go back to a police-station after a robbery is our house is solved? Do we keep visiting the hospital after the stomach ache is cured? Their services are valued only when there is a problem. The problem solvers are irrelevant to the society, during the absence of problems - like firemen in the absence of fire.
A normal productive society has more respect for skills which enhances value. Protective skills become important ONLY in a crisis.

THEN WHY SHOULD YOU LEARN VIOLENCE !?
That’s the next post.
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security.
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women"
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com
Chennai Site - https://sites.google.com/site/kravmagachennai/
KRAVMAGA BLOG -  http://kravmaga-chennai.blogspot.com/
LINKED IN -  http://in.linkedin.com/in/ksr960
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Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Effects of Sexual Harassment (5 of 5 on Crime against Women)


Being sexually harassed can devastate your psychological health, physical well-being and vocational development. Women who have been harassed often change their jobs, career goals, job assignments, educational programs or academic majors.
 In addition, women have reported psychological and physical reaction to being harassed that are similar to reactions to other forms of stress. They include:

Psychological Reactions

  • Depression, anxiety, shock, denial
  • Anger, fear, frustration, irritability
  • Insecurity, embarrassment, feelings of betrayal 
  • Confusion, feelings of being powerless
  • Shame, self-consciousness, low self-esteem
  • Guilt, self-blame, isolation

Physiological Reactions

  • Headaches
  • Lethargy
  • Gastrointestinal distress
  • Dermatological reactions
  • Weight fluctuations
  • Sleep Disturbances, nightmares
  • Phobias, panic reactions
  • Sexual problems

Career-Related Effects

  • Decreased job satisfaction
  • Unfavorable performance evaluations
  • Loss of job or promotion
  • Drop in academic or work performance due to stress
  • Absenteeism
  • Withdrawal from work or school
  • Change in career goals
Related links -  
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape)an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Monday, July 30, 2012

How to respond to work-place sexual harassment (4 of 5 on Crime against Women)


There is no one way to respond to harassment. Every situation is different and only you can evaluate the problem and decide on the best response.
Friends, affirmative action officers, human resource professionals and women's groups can offer information, advice and support, but only you can decide what is right for you. The only thing you can be absolutely certain of is that ignoring the situation will not cause it to go away. Above all, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF FOR THE HARASSMENT. It is not your fault. Place the blame where it belongs--on the harasser. Self-blame can cause depression and will not help you or the situation.
Many Women Have Found These Strategies Effective:
Say NO to the harasser! Be direct.
Write a letter to the harasser. Describe the incident and how it made you feel. State that you would like the harassment to stop. Send the letter by certified mail. Keep a copy.
Keep a record of what happened and when. Include dates, times, places, names of persons involved and witnesses, and who said what to whom.
Tell someone; don't keep it to yourself. By being quiet about the harassment, you don't help stop it. Chances are extremely good that you aren't the only victim of your harasser. Speaking up can be helpful in finding support and in protecting others from being victims.
Finding out who is responsible for dealing with harassment in your organization and whether you can talk in confidence to that person. Almost all organizations have sexual harassment policies, procedures and individuals or counselors who administer them.
Find out what the procedure is at your workplace or school; it is the organization's responsibility to provide you with advice, help and support, but such meetings at the workplace can provide an important record if legal action is ever advisable.
If you are a union member, speak to your union representative. Unions are generally very committed to eliminating sexual harassment in the workplace.
If you are experiencing severe psychological distress, you may want to consult a psychologist or other mental health professional who understands the problems caused by sexual harassment.
- from the Journal of the American Psychological Association

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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Friday, July 27, 2012

Types of Sexual Harassment (3 of 5 on Crime against Women)


STOP SEXUAL HARASSMENT
Gender Harassment: Generalized sexist statements and behavior that convey insulting or degrading attitudes about women. Examples include insulting remarks, offensive graffiti, obscene jokes or humor about sex or women in general.

Seductive Behavior: Unwanted, inappropriate and offensive sexual advances. Examples include repeated unwanted sexual invitations, insistent requests for dinner, drinks or dates, persistent letters, phone calls and other invitations.

Sexual Bribery: Solicitation of sexual activity or other sex-linked behavior by promise of reward; the proposition may be either overt or subtle.

Sexual Coercion: Coercion of sexual activity or other sex-linked behavior by threat of punishment; examples include negative performance evaluations, withholding of promotions, threat of termination.

Sexual Imposition: Gross sexual imposition (such as forceful touching, feeling, grabbing) or sexual assault.

Of these five types of behavior, gender harassment is by far the most common, followed by seductive behavior. The "classic" forms of sexual harassment (bribery and coercion) are in fact relatively uncommon, while other forms of sexual imposition happen more frequently than most people think. 
Recent court decisions have also found that certain types of offensive visual displays in the workplace, such as pornography, can be considered sexual harassment.

The defining characteristic of sexual harassment is that it is unwanted. It's important to clearly let an offender know that certain actions are unwelcome.
- from the Journal of the American Psychological Association
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Related links -  
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Sexual Harassment: Myths and Realities (2 of 5 on Crime against Women)

MYTH: Sexual harassment is rare. 
FACT: Sexual harassment is extremely widespread. It touches the lives of 40 to 60 percent of working women, and similar proportions of female students in colleges and universities.

MYTH: The seriousness of sexual harassment has been exaggerated; most so-called harassment is really trivial and harmless flirtation. 
FACT: Sexual harassment can be devastating. Studies indicate that most harassment has nothing to do with "flirtation: or sincere sexual or social interest. Rather, it is offensive, often frightening and insulting to women. Research shows that women are often forced to leave school or jobs to avoid harassment; may experiences serious psychological and health-related problems.

MYTH: Many women make up and report stories of sexual harassment to get back at their employers or others who have angered them.
FACT: Research shows that less than one percent of complaints are false. Women rarely file complaints are false. Women rarely file complaints even when they're are justified in doing so.

MYTH: Women who are sexually harassed generally provoke harassment by the way they look, dress and behave.
FACT: Harassment does not occur because women dress provocatively or initiate sexual activity in the hope of getting promoted and advancing their careers. Studies have found that victims of sexual harassment vary in physical appearance, type of dress, age, and behavior. The only thing they have in common is that over 99% of them are female.

MYTH: If you ignore harassment, it will go away.
FACT: It will not. Research has shown that simply ignoring the behavior is ineffective; harassers generally will not stop on their own. Ignoring such behavior may even be seen as agreement or encouragement.
- from the Journal of the American Psychological Association

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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Related links -  
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Are women safe on the Indian streets? The ugly truth revealed by statistics. (1 of 5 on Sexual Harassment)

After the Guwahati incident, wherein a girl was sexually molested by around 30 men, I have been getting calls from concerned parents and IT/BPO companies which employ women;  all enquiring about self-defense courses.  Suddenly here was an ugly reminder of the safety of women on Indian streets. 
“Oh..come on..it’s the same all over the world. .tell me..if the girl is walking outside a bar at that time, what does she expect?!”  shrugged one middle aged man, while another waved the whole the thing away with a generic dismissal , “She is a victim of the angrezi pub culture”
But the truth is more ugly and accurate, as these facts below point out.
The security of woman in India is amongst the lowest, globally ( Source - http://www.womanstats.org)
World Woman self defense workshops, Chennai
The more startling fact is, even war-torn Somalia is rated a better country in terms of safety of women! India is at the bottom 4 along with Afghanistan, Congo and Pakistan. (Source -www.trust.org)
Crime against women - G20 countries - India low (Kravmaga Chennai)
crime against women statistics - G20 countries - India low at 19

In India , Andhra and Bengal seem to be the worst states for woman. All the inference drawn below are based on published reports of NCRB on “Crime against women”
A quick look of the molestation and eve-teasing statistics of the top metros, reveal Chennai is comparatively a safer city for women.
Eve-teasing & molestation in Indian metros - Chennai OK
Molestation & Eve- teasing - Indian metros - statistics

In total numbers, the predictable bad-boy is of course Delhi, followed by Mumbai.  But the ugly story is revealed in the smaller cities like Bhopal, Indore, Lucknow and especially Vijayawada.
What’s wrong with small town India?!

Sexual harassment high in II tier towns of India
The summary of the pathetic India story on “crime against women” is captured by the graph below.
In 10 years since 2000, the total incidents of crime has grown 50 fold! If one tries to blame this on the burgeoning population, its futile; because the figure on the rate of crime against woman (number of incidents in a lakh of population) also shows a steady upward slant. 30 times increase in 10 years!
Today Crime against women cases form 10% of the total IPC cases in India !
Crime against women increasing in India

What is to be done to improve the safety of Indian women?
I am not a social scientist to understand the implications and extrapolate on the catalysts of this trend of Crime against women in India. But there is no ambiguity in the simple fact that security of women in India is abysmal.
This ‘crime against woman ‘situation cannot be improved in a short duration; due to various cultural, economic and social factors. Like the ingrained patriarchal mind-set, the economic dependency, increasing alcohol consumption, wave of migrant labourers in big cities, the clash of cultural values due to a media explosion within 2 decades. The list can go on.
Education is better than Policing for “crime against women”
I feel the change will be more enduring if it’s inculcated from bottom up. Values and social mores are imbibed at an early age.  It’s very tough to change social values after a certain age.
Policing and law-enforcement can at the best act as deterrents. But their resources are already stretched thin. The best bet is education. If the man vs woman equations are spelt out clearly at a very young age, probably in 2 or 3 generation cycles we can see a significant change is the safety of women on the Indian streets.
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SreeRam is a KravMaga self-defence instructor at Chennai, South India. He teaches Civilians, Chennai City Police and Security. 
SreeRam has started W.A.H.R (Women against harassment & Rape) an NGO devoted to increase personal safety awareness amongst women and equip them to handle sexual harassment at public and work places.
SreeRam conducts KravMaga personal safety and self-defense workshops at corporates, especially IT/BPO companies where many women work late. He has also conducted workshops, for rural women.
On 8th March 2012 ( International Women's Day) KravMaga SreeRam released a small handy booklet for women titled " 10A-s of Personal Safety for Women
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Related links -  
10A-s of Personal Safety for Women" - Part I & Part II
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Mobile - 0-934 000 66 00 , Email - kravmaga.chennai@gmail.com 



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